Hey my friends,
I woke up this morning with a huge amount of energy and love for everything around me. I have been really studying myself and life at a deeper level.
My focus for the first quarter of the year is not so much producing results and making lots of money, it was finding balance with all aspects of life (Spiritual, Physical, Emotional, Financial).
Being an entrepreneur is the most difficult career in the world. The biggest obstacle is holding yourself accountable and getting things done that produce results for your business.
I don’t have a set of hours I have to work, I do not have someone looking over my shoulder. We go through the ups and downs.
When the economy shifted it affected my business severely, although I made no excuses it was devastating to see bank accounts, profits, just plummet.
I did one thing that most don’t realize, and that is: I adapted to change and shifted my focus to the up coming trends of Technology, Home Based Business, Debt Settlement, Real Estate investing and a few others.
It was this point where I realized, I could not put my happiness in the hands of the money and what material things I have.
Trust me I drive a beautiful car, lived a very nice lifestyl,e had what I wanted, but you know honestly it was all temporary.
I was married to this lifestyle, I made my promise to keep it all but the biggest mistake was putting my happiness in the hands of this “illusion”.
This goes back to the title of my post here, about a book I am reading called “The mastery of love”. In this book, today I read probably one of the most impactful 20 pages of my life, and I highly encourage all of you to read it.
The chapter spoke about a man that did not believe in love, he thought it did not exist at all. Until one day he came across a lady crying on a bench in a park and comforted by asking, “why are you crying”…
The lady responded “Love does not exist”, the man was astonished to have found another women who believed the same about love as he did.
They became best of friends, and as things continued to grow, their relationship turned into love. Although it was a different kind of love, because he was not dependent on her for anything.
He did not envy her success, they respected each other at all times, and shared this amazing unique love.
One day as he was looking up at the stars, he was able to grab one. This star to him resembled the happiness he had within him about this entire relationship with this women.
The following day, he took that star and placed it in her hands. With all her doubt, she dropped the star and it shattered into millions of pieces.
As you can tell my friends, he put his happiness in the hands of someone else, and the result being heart breaking. I want you guys to really think about this at a deep level.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being in love, I think its one of the most beautiful experiences of life and we all will endeavor it shortly.
Its very important to understand, and I hate to sound like a broken record, but when I read this story it truly opened my eyes to the biggest mistake I have made and I believe all of us do.
To continue living with happiness and the love you desire, its important that you keep control of your own happiness and never rely on your significant other to keep it held high, because anything can happen and that is a huge responsibility for the other person.
Have the best day of your life!
-Matias Leiva
Dear Matias,
You are right. Happiness is not a subject or object which can be at the mercy of other people in your life, whether they are your relatives, friends or colleagues.
First, try to find happiness in whatever you are doing, whether it is your job, social service or any activity which will not strain your relations with others.
Once you find happiness, guard it carefully, only to be enjoyed by you, by keeping doing the same thing again and again.